Have you ever had one of those days where everything is going along just fine and suddenly, just out of the blue, something happens and you just feel off?
Maybe a thought caused it. Maybe you got a phone call, email, or text that just gave you a weird vibe. Maybe you don’t know what happened but your formerly good mood has just sunk a little (or a lot).
Some people bounce back from these types of situations relatively quickly. For others, it takes some time, and still for a select few, it can be extremely difficult to pull themselves back up.
Hence the need for a Soul Spa.
Soul Spa posts will feature uplifting quotes, pictures, my own mood-boosting recipes, and specific strategies to make you feel better right now.
Today is too important to be sad or anxious or depressed.
If you’re thinking, “That sounds nice, but I can’t do that. It’s too hard. I’m just too miserable for this to work,” I’d like to gently suggest you give it a try, because you have nothing at all to lose and everything to gain.
I used to struggle with this a lot. Something small like the wrong tone in someone’s voice would throw me off and I’d sink into this pit of depression, feeling terrible about myself and resenting whomever I thought brought my mood down. All because of what was most likely a misinterpretation of someone’s tone of voice.
I didn’t want to believe that because of inherent personality traits or a chemical imbalance I’d always be this way. I didn’t want to think I couldn’t change my reactions towards the world and my environment.
Thus began the most intense and gratifying experience of my life:
And as it turns out, I could. And I did.
The process of retraining my brain has led me to cultivate a life that I love living. I’m happy almost every day because I choose happiness, but first I had to learn how to make that choice. It’s challenging, but possible and so worth it.
It doesn’t mean that every day is easy, but I know how to navigate the crappy things and still have a good time.
I want to show you how to create days that are filled with joy and gratitude and fun, even if you’re struggling right now. And even if you’re already feeling good about your life and yourself, I’ll show you ways to make you feel even better.
Get out a journal, a piece of paper, or start a new document on your computer and label it “Good Memories.” Write down any and all good memories, no matter how small or seemingly insignificant you think they are. Anything from travel memories to that time that cute guy or gal flirted with you and said you have beautiful eyes.
There are endless possibilities with this log. You can make lists, write out stories of your good memories, write poetry, songs, doodle, paste in actual pictures. Whatever reminds you of the good times in your life should go in. The ‘how’ doesn’t matter as much as the ‘what’.
The point here is to have a tangible (or electronic) ready-made list of proof that life is good. Whenever you find yourself getting down or upset about something, pull out this list and remember the wonderful things that have happened to you. Not everything that happens on this planet is bad!
Some people call it the Law of Attraction or manifestation, but those have some spiritual connotations that make some people uncomfortable. I personally do enjoy the spiritual aspect, but don’t not try this because you don’t consider yourself spiritual!
An intention practice is really easy and all it requires is for you to affirm where you are in your life, what you’re capable of, and what you want/intend for yourself and others.
For example, a phrase I say to myself often comes directly from Wayne Dyer,
I repeat this to myself over and over when I find my mood dipping a little bit. What’s important is that you use words that are important to you, whether it’s ‘good’, ‘joyful’, ‘confident’, ‘happy’, or whatever it is you want to draw into your life.
Start using the power of intention to help you move towards the life you’ve always wanted.
Mix Vanilla and Tangerine (or Orange) essential oils to make a delicious creamsicle scented oil. Rub it all over your body after you get out of the shower and then watch your favorite movie with a hot cup of tea (or champagne, if you’re classy like that) and enjoy some you time. Vanilla is a calming and relaxing scent while tangerine is emotionally uplifting. This combination will balance and center you while making you feel more positive.
What are your favorite ways to lift yourself up when you’re having a bad day?